“You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with.” – Jim Rohn
You want to start a new fit lifestyle, but maybe you have people in your life that aren’t the best influences.
Whether it is your friends, family or significant other… these people can have a serious impact on your life and your ability to make healthy changes.
The good news is, you don’t have to get rid of your friends, sell your worldly possessions, go into isolation and join the Fitness Protection Program…
You also don’t have to let the people you know wreck your fitness goals and progress.
Here are five ways to deal with relationships that negatively impact your new fit lifestyle:
Tell them what your doing – First things first, you have to let your friends and family know your goals and your plans for change. If those closest to you are bad influences, you will likely feel the urge to hide your new lifestyle from them. Living a double life like this is tough. Your friends and family don’t know any different, so they keep living like they normally would… bad habits and all.
To avoid this tricky situation, let everyone know what you are doing. Assure them that you aren’t judging them for their lifestyle, but that you will be making some changes to yours. If they respect you, then they will understand and support your mission. As a bonus, announcing your intentions will provide increased accountability to maintain your fit lifestyle. You may also recruit your friends and family to join you in the process.
Explain what it means to you – In addition to letting everyone know WHAT you are doing, let them know WHY you are doing it. Explain your emotional need for change and spell out your motivation. This will let friends and family know that this is meaningful to you, and not just a passing phase. Again, if they care for you and respect you, they will support your new lifestyle.
Choose your situations wisely – Our fitness and nutrition can be heavily influenced by our environment. If you continue to surround yourself with negative influences, you will need to understand specific situations that are worse for you than others. For example, if your friends frequently go to a bar on Friday night, and it turns into a drunken binge of booze and horrible food… you may want to pass.
This doesn’t mean you have to give up on your friends all together though. Simply pick your situations wisely. If the same group of friends gets together for a hike or trip to the park, you’re good to go. If they don’t usually do that type of thing, then be the one to set it up. Spend time with good friends, without the bad habits. If they are true friends, you don’t have to include the bad habits to enjoy time with one another.
Find positive Influences – Life is all about balance. The same is true for the people you interact with every day. If your friends and family tend to be a negative impact on your health and fitness, then you need to balance that out with positive influences. Surround yourself with other people who think like you, and have similar goals. Look for groups on social media, hire a personal trainer or join a fitness class. That way, if you hear negativity coming from your immediate circle of friends all day, you can have the support of your fitness network to keep you going.
Worst case, distance yourself – Of course, if you aren’t getting support and your relationships are impacting you negatively, you may decide that you need to distance yourself from them. If you have tried everything else, and it becomes clear that certain people don’t care about you, your life and your goals… it may be time to move on.
It’s hard to give advice on how to handle this move, as it will likely be specific to your situation. Only you can decide what is more important… certain people in your life and their negative habits, or your own life and future.
You are fully capable of making huge changes in your life and transforming your fitness… but you need help and support. Choose the people you surround yourself with wisely, and make sure those who truly care about you understand your journey.
None of us can do it alone.
Use the tips above to surround yourself with support and positivity. Start today and be proud of your new path.
P.S. – I am here for you, and ready to help you through any negativity you may face. I know you can reach all of your goals and change your life forever. If you would like to become a part of a close knit community and surround yourself with people who are on the same journey as you follow this link and fill out the application.